Have you tried using declarative language with your PDA child or teen, but it didn’t quite work out as you were expecting? 🥴 (citation: The Declarative Language Handbook” by Linda K. Murphy). 👉Perhaps your child or teen responded by ignoring you, saying “stop talking” or even growling. Maybe the tool made things worse (!?) with your communication 🧐 👉Or *you* might have felt triggered while using it and not fully understood why! (If you relate to any of these scenarios, drop a comment below!)

Quick example of how to use Declarative Language (see: Linda K. Murphy’s “Declarative Language Handbook”) and in-the-moment subtle de-escalation to help with the transition to school. Please keep in mind that the ✨energy behind my words ✨matters as much as what I said to him AND we have a baseline of trust after almost four years of using this approach instead of traditional parenting. People often ask for 'real life' examples on social media, then comment on all the things that they don't like